ten year old me
Joining my sis for Coffee Chat - come on over - grab a cup and let's sit for a while and chat!
So - There is a birthday in the works! and Les wants to know what we would tell our younger selves as we were turning 10
There is list of things I would tell me
1. Take a deep breath - this too shall pass
2. No, everything is not your fault!
3. You are a child and should be able to act like one.
4. No, everything is not your fault!
5. Yes, he is gone and has a new family
6. No, that doesn't mean he doesn't love you - he just doesn't know how to show it
7. 10 is a magic age - enjoy your friends
8. She doesn't mean to say those things
9. Your brothers do love you
Now looking back on it, I'm not really sure any of that would have made a difference. At 10 my world had changed irreversibly - I had new step-parents in a world without divorce.
The world is a different place today than it was 47 years ago - Happy Birthday Angel Girl! Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!
You shared some very empowering thoughts here! I wish children really could take this wisdom to heart, so many today deal with the same fears, hurts, and sense of loss. Why is it that children always blame themselves, and why do some parents find it so hard to say "I love you"?
ReplyDeleteWhat I am loving now is watching how caring and supportive my son is of his girlfriend's young son, because he remembers what it's like to be a "suitcase child" shuffled back and forth between parents, and not being sure how to handle loyalties and follow the rules at each place. He has grown up to be an amazing man, so I guess we must have done something right along the way, but it still hurts my heart to think of the burdens place on children of broken homes. It isn't ever easy.
Well you know I can relate to every single word! Except, I didn't have brothers. That would come with the next step father (but also where the story got better too).
ReplyDeleteI really, truly, absolutely LOVE #3 and I feel it resonate right deep in my bones. Such things in life that can make a child grow a wisdom far beyond their years - a wisdom that may serve them well eventually; oh but the price of innocence is steep.